Getting Over The Blame – Was It My Fault That He Cheated On Me?
July 29, 2010 Society No CommentsWomen everyone take the blame completely upon themselves when their husbands cheat. Not all women do but enough that it is a problem that needs to be addressed. Now is not the time to be riddled with self-doubt and questions like “am I a bad person that drove him to cheat?”
Take note that the mind has the power to transform any individual whatever s/he thinks about himself. If you think you are bad, then you are. If you think you are good, then great. Only you have the power to change mountains with what you believe in. If you think it was your fault why your husband cheated on you, then it’s high time for you to tighten the screws in your head.
Picked the Ripest One, but Still Got the Seed
Just when you think you have tasted perfection, then you would find yourself making comparisons. Simply put, there is no such thing as perfect in this world. You might have married a very wonderful man, got very cute children, only to find out that he doesn’t find you interesting anymore. You see, anything can go wrong in a relationship.
When you got married to a fine young man, you have never seen his cheating coming. Yes, anybody is capable of doing it even you could fall into such very thorny trap. If presented by an opportunity to go astray, anybody could fall into the trap. We are just so weak for resisting temptations because there is a desire to do so.
Are You Going to Let His Cheating Define You?
No one can ever justify the act of cheating. Whether or not you contributed to the cheating issue, it is simply no way right for a husband to define his cheating as something that he has no control of or because you pushed him into it. His decision to cheat and blaming you for it is solely a matter of justifying his behavior.
Eleanor Roosevelt made an excellent statement when she said: “No one can make you feel bad about yourself without your permission.” Don’t let his mistakes become your stumbling blocks. His cheating doesn’t mean that you are a bad person. It doesn’t even really mean that you are a bad person for him.
Whatever were his reasons, you can never really guess. What you need to do here is try to figure out where the two of you go went wrong in your relationship. Cheating is just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more to see down there.
Common Reasons Men Cheat
Despite the fact that so many women believe he cheats because the other woman is prettier, younger, or smaller these issues are rarely the case. These are the reasons men often state for their straying ways:
Stress or pressured at home and work.
Demanding wife (the other woman might be so patient)
Chaotic family (a nagging wife greets him every night)
Appreciative mistress
There is an opportunity to cheat.
Too many demands at home
A need for affection and appreciation
Nagging
Other women are sweeter.
As you can see, none of these reasons have anything to do with their wives being bad women or even with their wives not being attractive enough. Even if your marriage has ended over cheating it’s not too late to get your ex back and make your marriage better than ever before.
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